Are you jealous of your former classmates who are getting married ? Feel like you're getting left behind ?

I am. :( I found out recently that this guy who was in my class (class of '99) is getting married. My sis went to his wedding social %26amp; told me that this girl/former classmate is getting married too! :( I was alwayz one of the oldest in my class %26amp; didn't have a bf in skewl. I was very shy. I'm not as shy as I used to be tho :D I'm in a long-term rel %26amp; wonder if we'll get married. We've been together for bout a yr %26amp; a 1/2 :o minus the 6 wks that we broke up. I've only had a few bfs %26amp; this is my longest %26amp; most serious rel. The 2nd longest was 8 mos but he told me that he was in lust w/ me. We didn't have a rel like the one that I have w/ my bf. He's my best friend. I share things w/ him that I'd never tell anyone else. He's my soul mate. This rel still seems relatively new to me tho. We both feel that the rel is fairly "young". Even tho we're best friends %26amp; soul mates I still wonder if I *love* him. He def loves me. I can see myself w/ him in the future. Am I just scared of commitment ?

Are you jealous of your former classmates who are getting married ? Feel like you're getting left behind ?
You have a healthy attitude about it. Usually everyone wonders from time to time if their emotions are real. While other people may get married and divorced 5 years later, you will most likely marry for good, since you deliberate a long time before deciding to make that step. I personally think that you should be with someone five years before you marry them. I know that sounds long, but hey, what's the wait when you're making sure you want to be with someone FOR EV ER! It does suck to be left out of the hype right now, but like I said, waiting for the right relationship is much better than getting married because it's what everyone is doing right now.
Reply:It depends on the guy you are with. Maybe he's not ready for commitment yet. It seems as if there are two types of guys - the ones who don't want to commit and the ones who want to commit right away. There aren't too many people who just commit when the time is right. I married my fourth boyfriend, and we were engaged after only 6 months. We got married a year after that and had a baby. It just depends on the guy. You need to figure out what you want in life and then go for it. But most of all, you need to wit down with your boyfriend and the two of you need to talk about it - if he is your best friend and you can tell him anything the way you say you can, then you need to tell him how you feel - he might have better advice for you than anyone else, especially since he probably knows you better than anyone else.
Reply:I am the former classmate who is getting married and everyone is jealous of me. i love it. Also, if you wonder if you love him for whatever reason wait. Better to wait then to realize it's not love after getting married.
Reply:if you are scared of commitment it just means that you are not in love with him so you shouldn't do it and when you truly find the love you wont care about nothing and and everything you do together (GETTING MARRIED) you wont have no doubts about nothing that is when you are truly in love and it does not matter what your friends from school are doing trust me i was one of the first of all my class mates right after graduation i got into a serious relationship never got married but lived w/ him for about 6 years and i have a 3 year old i graduated same year as you and believe me Ive been single for 2 years now almost and I'm loving it because now i see other people and remember what i lived hell no that life isn't for me imagine you have to clean up your whole house wash and iron clothes and have dinner ready plus you work all day and you wont be able to have any of the fun you are probably having now and then when you have arguments that's the worst and that's why don't think you are getting to old women never get old they do so don't rush into things if you don't know if you are in love because your scared of commitment when your in love you are scared of nothing.
Reply:It depends on the guy you are with. Maybe he's not ready for commitment yet. It seems as if there are two types of guys - the ones who don't want to commit and the ones who want to commit right away. There aren't too many people who just commit when the time is right. I married my fourth boyfriend, and we were engaged after only 6 months. We got married a year after that and had a baby. It just depends on the guy. You need to figure out what you want in life and then go for it. But most of all, you need to sit down with your boyfriend and the two of you need to talk about it - if he is your best friend and you can tell him anything the way you say you can, then you need to tell him how you feel - he might have better advice for you than anyone else, especially since he probably knows you better than anyone else.