Has Anybody been isolated by classmates?

I know that I have. When I entered the new school district for 4th grade, I thought it would be a pretty friendly community, but it isn't. All the school kids hate me and still do, because I came from another elementary school, and they think I am some kind of weirdo or something. I have no friends and I always sit alone in the lunch table, because none of the schoolmates would let me sit with them, and when there's group projects, none of them would let me work with them, and when we work with partners, no one ever picks me, so I always had to be by myself all the time, and when someone is forced to be my partner, they act like if it's a total nightmare to be partners with me. And when there's lunch time, people would throw food at me, and I have very little self-confidence let me tell you. And on field trips, I usally have to sit them out, because if I go on any field trip,You'll usally see me by myself because no one will hang out with me and everything. Sometimes people will tease

Has Anybody been isolated by classmates?
I know exactly how you feel. I just got my confidence back last year. I moved into this district in 7th grade and was treated like crap which REALLY lowered my self esteem. A few years later I met my close friends. Every single year I was teased. I graduated almost 2 months ago and it was the happiest day of my life. Don't let them ignorant fools get to you.
Reply:Wow ,


I really feel for you ... I am not sure there is much you can do to to change peoples opinions of you. You see kids are all scared so they gang up on a person. Even kids that normally wouldn't tease you will, if teasing you means that the attention will be off them. Girls in groups are dangerous too. Your life is very hard ... I have been there.


Good news though you seem smart and very strong. You have not let them break you. My best advice would be to find a hobby or something you LOVE in life. It can be acting, dancing , riding horses , ANYTHING THAT YOU LOVE . Now go out and apply yourself to that love .Take lessons in it and join any clubs that pertain to that hobby. You will gain lots of self confidence and perhaps make true lasting friendships without the stress of school people. I started riding horses and joined 4 H club. I made many friends there and nobody knew I was the most hated kid in my school. It helped me see that not everyone hated me or thought I was trash. It was the single most important thing that saved me from all the bullying and crap I had to go through at school. Trust me find something you like and pursue it outside of school... It will help you gain self confidence.Also when you get to high school there will be many clubs and team sports. Try joining some clubs...That's often a great way to make a few friends!


As for the school life please realize that many of these kids are scared and that motivates a lot of this behavior. Please do what ever it takes to go to class and excel in your school work. Do not even think about letting these people make you quit ! You only have 4 more years. Also I want to let you know that as these kids age they will mature a little. By the time they get to 10 th grade a lot of the face to face bullying lets up some. They may not become your friends or stop gossiping about you but they may start ignoring you a little more.


Good luck to in life and please keep believing in yourself and NEVER EVER let these kids opinion's define you.
Reply:Yes.


From 7th grade on, I was made fun of by boys. And the girls weren't friendly at all. I was barked at, called a dog and other names and would go home and cry every evening after school.


I didn't think that anyone could help me, either. I hope someone can take you out of that horrible situation. I am strong and I live well with a fine family, now. (And all of those jocks that made fun of me have lost all their hair! lol)


I feel bad for your situation and I hope that you will know that what others may say or think of you is not who you are. You are better than them.





The safety aspect worries me, too.


If you are getting beaten, bullied and thrown down stairs, that is assault and the offenders need to be charged.


Please keep talking to your parents, minister, or other trusted adult to get help.


I hope you can get into another school where the situation will be much better. Best wishes to you.
Reply:wow!..they really do that!....
Reply:Yes I went through the same thing and I am now a middle aged lady. The pain will work as your friend, the solitude will teach you to love and trust yourself. You will become so much stronger than the group of cattle that torment you. Talk to your Mother about this and see if she can help you. But the best thing to do would be to just completely go to a new place. Remember the next time you go to a new place, the first day is the most important because you are presenting yourself the way people will see you forever after that day. So you are great, you are a star and don't let anyone tell you different. The teachers won't do anything about this, your Mother and you are the only ones who will. Good luck...
Reply:hey i can relate to that... im constintly getting picked on in school. i get beat up all the time because i dont play alot of sports. i got kicked in the groin like everyday this past school year. if you wanna talk e-mail me.





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Reply:That stinks! No one really likes me either because I didn't go to Sky Ranch. I have friends and self-confidence because I am a nautrally happy person. I hope those bitches don't bother you again. If you want to you can e-mail me. I really hope that no one is that rude to you again. Keep in contact
Reply:I had been isolated from the 3rd grade on up to graduation. I didn't get into brand name clothes, I didn't party or smoke and that left me out to be what these people called a dexter.


But my satisfaction now is knowing that all of these popular people who treated me so badly are either married and divorced several times over, in prison, on welfare, or just plain wasted their lives away.
Reply:Please speak with the school counselor about your feelings and issues before we end up seeing you on the news as the next mass-shooter in some unknown middle or high school.
Reply:Maybe you should consider going to a private school. Classes are small and the education is excellent. I think the students and staff should treat you better there as well. Do a little research on your own as to the schools in your area and find out about ways to finance it. Even if you work for it, delivering papers, it would be worth it. You don't have to be Catholic to go to a Catholic private school.





Good luck, honey.