I love one of my classmates(Its really love, not a crush) But telling her about my feelings seems pointless..?

because i know she is not into me(dont ask me how,i am sure she doesnt feel the same way) i feel really hopeless this time. i feel sick and weak all day and dont want to do anything.its like im living in hell without her.School is closed and i cant see her(im 19 by the way,dont think im 12) what should i do? i really need help!!

I love one of my classmates(Its really love, not a crush) But telling her about my feelings seems pointless..?
Don't get me wrong, I know you like her a lot, but hear me out before you just ignore my answer. It's not love. It's only infatuation when one person likes another. Love only comes about from a matured relationship.





I have no doubt that you already screwed up your chances with her not just by the fact that you say so, but because of this personality type of yours altogether. Change something.





If you really want to know what to do in a situation like this, believe it or not, you really do have to move on. Again, you didn't want to hear it, and you'll probably listen to dumb answers like, "Be nice to her and ask her out," but you know deep down that this is the simple truth.





It doesn't matter how bad or sick it makes you feel. Dwelling on the fact that she doesn't like you is self-destructive and it leads to depression. You my friend, have gone into a depression over this one simple girl in your life. Your letting ONE failure with ONE person destroy your confidence. So do yourself a favor and knock off this feeling sorry for yourself crap and do something.





You probably want to know what it was about yourself that she didn't like don't you? Guess what? She didn't like you because she already knew you liked her. I don't even have to see you in action to know that you're the kind of person who wears his feelings on his sleeves. (In case you didn't know, that's a bad thing.) There's NOTHING mysterious, or more importantly, INTERESTING about someone you can read like an open book. (Remember that part if nothing else.)





What you should do is STOP being so NICE to her in the future, as well as every other girl you meet, and STOP dweling over her. Learn from your failures from now on. If what you're doing now isn't working,CHANGE SOMETHING. That's the best advice I can offer you.
Reply:awww. I'm 19 too, and ready to start school hope that crap doesn't happen to me. Alls I can tell you is to, just find something or someone you love that you know loves you back and keep yourself busy so you won't have time to think of her.
Reply:when you know her feelings why do you want to choose hell for yourself?





why do you want to think about someone who does'nt love and respect your feelings,do you think you are so hopeless to have someone you really deserve....





try and get involved in some sport and keep your self busy,m sure it'll do you wonders!!
Reply:First don't worry so much. Second show her you attention, show that you like her, maybe she will show you the same. Because if you don't do anything she won't do anything too. Don't be afraid to show your feelings. Because love is an illness.
Reply:u like her alot but what ever you do don't ask her if she likes you just become better friends given time maybe she will b into u
Reply:Fear is something you have to overcome to get what you want in this world. I have found this out in many different ways. I have seen guys that I was in love with in a classroom before I know what it is like. It is scary as hell to do anything, being afraid you would do something to offend that person. In order to know for sure that she is not into you, you must approach her. Use the love you have for her in your heart as courage and go for it. Do you ever run into her outside of school? Can you get her phone number to ask her out for dinner and a movie? That would cure both problems I think. The one about school being out and the fear you have because of your love for her. If you ask me, I think she is a very lucky girl to have someone loving her so much. God Bless and Good Luck to you.
Reply:Yeah, that happened to me once. In the end, it turned out that nothing was going to happen between us. If she doesn't like you, then, well, you have your answer. I know that it's really hard to accept that, but you will find another girl someday, it just takes time.
Reply:Been there. I'm always attracted to women out of my class. But sometimes women want to date out of their class (or what you perceive it is). Tough choice. It's a risk, so you let her know how you feel and risk embarrassment and hope for the better? Or do you store that feeling and stay lovesick? Either way life won't end man.


Problem is with society is men are expected to make the first move. It puts guys at a terrible and unfair disadvantage. Most women will NOT be courageous either, and will not approach a guy. And why not? They will get approached anyway. Women just have to look pretty. It's a fact. Men need brass balls. Either "man up" now or wait till later.


Besides, if you think shes not into you, then it's an doomed romance anyway. You may never feel you deserve her.


My advice, is let her go and get over your pain, move on.


Either way, good luck.


and read Jedi's advice too. That's great advice.
Reply:Just go and tell him ..
Reply:do u know some of her friends?then ask her no. nd call her tell wat r ur feelings
Reply:Whenever you see her again, just tell her that you feel atracted to her, DO NOT tell her your in love or she might get scared, be yourself, and be prepared for anything, act also as if whatever happends it's cool, and most of it; patience is a gret roll when your in love.