I think my classmates don't like me anymore?

my friends in schools...at first when i meet them they are very very nice to me.. but i think now that we know each other several years they ignore me..i think i should change my style.. bringing cool stuffs with me.. and changing my appearance.. do you think it helps???

I think my classmates don't like me anymore?
in friendship, the most important thing is not appearance but your whole personality. try to introspect and see what qualities you currently have. it may not only be your appearance but your traits/habits that you need to change. bad attitude is a major turn-off in friendship so see if there are some attitudes that you need to change.





with regards to your appearance, there's nothing wrong in putting your best foot forward. if it will make you more confident and feel better, then do so. but don't try to be someone you are not because it will make you look awkward and trying-hard - thus, you'll end up pushing away people away from you.
Reply:nooooooo , when u wanna change try to make it without anyone noticing , so take small steps that will brings u to the top later on but u have to be patient , everyone is special in several things , the smart thing to do is not to show them what u r good in so u wont be showing off or anything , instead let them find out those things , for an example , if they dont know a lot about u then this is something u can use for ur own good , cuz since they dont know much about u as soon as they find out cool things about u they will change their mind quickly cuz they dont have any previous thought to hold on too ,and the point is to wow them everytime they think that they have known enough about u where it should seems like they only knew a bit of who u really r , but the problem is that they know u for a long time so they ptobably know a lot about u , in this case it will be harder to change what they think about u but u can try , u can start becoming nicer to everyone around u , try to be funny ( dont try hard , just small comments on things that happens in class , sarcasm would do good ) , just try to become better at everything u do but dont show off , never , this is the worst thing u can do , it will ruin ur whole reputation , and u can start changing things in ur appearance if u think that this will help but dont make it so fast , like dont come the next day with a whole make over , just come the first week with something improved and the next week with another thing improved , and the week after it till u become a whole new person and before u know it they will start liking u again , ......... but never forget those who were ur friends before
Reply:Never change who you are to please someone else, in the end you will just end up miserable! Maybe they are ignoring you because they are jealous or intimidated by you!! Keep on being who you are and love yourself, the people who matter with love you no matter what! The people who ignore you, are not worth being in your life!
Reply:No, brining cool stuff and attracting friends doesn't work. It seems that you and your friends have outgrown each other. Look around there are many people who you would like to befriend. You might share common interests, have fun. Friends don't just have to be girls you know, they can be boys too.
Reply:ur bein a follower and no its not a good idea
Reply:of course not dear. you are who you are, and if they don't like it, it their problem. For me, i grow tired of the same company after a year or so, so I frequently try to hang out with different groups. So i'll advice you to do the same, talk to other people, so if just in case you end up with a slightly more serious problem with your relationship with your classmates, you can seek them out for company. People change with the times, you should too. ;)
Reply:if you have to change yourself so your "friends" will like you, they werent really good friends in the first place.


You say that the way they act around you has changed over several years and you have to remeber that this is normal. Some people can have the same friends for life, but MOST people will change friends many times throughout school. As we grow up, we change, our attitudes change and we begin to focus on different things. At school, i had a group of "friends" who did the same sort of thing to me- in grade 5,6, and 7-we were the best of friends and liked all the same stuff and all of us did very well at school. However, suddenly in grade 8- they hated me.


And it feels so sudden and you do feel rather rejected. I was pretty upset about it at first, but I realised if I was happy with who I was- then no bitches are going to be able to change that. So i continued being myself and i met new more friends- people who were very nice to me and continued to be :)


If you are happy and comfortable in your style- do not change it for them. Although they might see you 6 hours a day, it is you who has to look at and live with yourself the WHOLE DAY!! So you have to be happy with you dress and how you act and who you are. Unless you need the "cool stuff" there is no use bringing it to school cause it is just a target for theft and vandalism.


I really think you should take the upper hand and ditch these so called friends and start talking to some new people- I guarantee you will be SOOO much happier being WHO YOU ARE and hanging around new people who accept you for that, than hanging around a bunch of people who will like your style one day but then decide they dont the next- just for the sake of being bitchy.





I know you may have heard all this before and you might think this is coming from a social outcast- but by being myself and forgetting the nasty girls, i ended up President of the Student Council, captain of sports teams and i came top in my school too.


While the bitchy girls may have looked "cool" throughout school, it really got them no where in the long run.
Reply:If they pretended to be your friends in the beginning and now are ignoring you.........sounds like they really weren't true friends from the start. Focus on you school work and never ever change for other people who have proven to be fake. If you are going to change , make sure the change is for you and for the better, not for anyone else!!!