One of our classmates died this week and my best friend was good mates with him, he is absolutley distraught..

How can I comfort him!!! I have been friends with him ever since I was a little girl, around 14 years now (we are 16) He was really close to my friend I personally didnt know him that well, but he lost a battle with cancer, he was 16 and everyone is in shock, the schools atmosphere is terrible. But I need to know how to comfort my friend, i know he is upset and that but I need to make him feel better. Help!

One of our classmates died this week and my best friend was good mates with him, he is absolutley distraught..
simply be there for him when he needs you and try to get him to recall happy moments with this friend. your friend might be gone, but the memories will last forever. and mention to him that i'm sure his friend would not want him to stop living his life because he's no longer in it. if anything this friend that you're trying to comfort should NOW begin to live life to it's fullest.......in honor of his friend!!!! Good Luck %26amp; be sure to give him lots of hugs!!!!
Reply:The best thing you can do is simply be there. Let your friend talk when/if he needs/wants to. Sometimes quiet companionship is best ... just be there. I'm so sorry for the loss of his friend.





Best Wishes,


Pat


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Reply:I really don't think you can comfort your friend. The most you can do is hug him and let him know that you're there for him. When someone dies, there's nothing you can really say to make the other person feel better. The only thing you can do is be there for him.








I'm really sorry for your school's loss. It's a horrible thing when someone so young dies, especially of something like cancer.
Reply:its hard. believe me ive lost alot of friends due to car accidents. one minute they are here and the next its like gone. i think youll always remember them in a good way thats life. and one thing i think knowing that they are not in pain. such as your friend having cancer is so hard. my dad died early with cancer. id say talk about it . if he feels like just over and over talking about it.. let him. and time does heal. it does. but it takes along time. not going to happen over night .
Reply:one of my classmates sisters died year before last (she was 5 when she died) and the thing that we had to do is really just back off and not mention it. it took about 6 months for her to not cry every day about it. but the best thing to do is to go to his funeral and be beside him and just try to support him all you can.
Reply:What a wonderful young person you are. This restores faith in the young people of today. It is a tragedy of monumental proportions especially so young. I know this sounds trite, but there is only one thing you can do. Make sure you tell your friend you are there for him and you realise he is hurting but you can't begin to imagine how much. You must let him go through what is called the "grieving process" which can also be called the "healing process". You know when you hit yourself with something and the pain is really severe? After a little time of feeling down about the injury, you find the hurt begins to fade and you start to live normally again. This process is what your friend is going through now. He is hurting terribly, and to stop that hurt, he needs to get it out of his system, like an infection that must be treated in order to enable recovery. The more he cries, the sooner he will heal.


Just be there for him, and once in a while put your arm around him and let him know you care.