My daughter is 14. Twin classmates are both interested in her. She likes one but not the other.?

It's a sticky situation. Any advice?

My daughter is 14. Twin classmates are both interested in her. She likes one but not the other.?
get outtas your kids business
Reply:isnt she to young
Reply:I was in this situation in high school..... I just stayed friends with both and didn't lead either on..... Eventually the one she likes and her will start to get closer or they will all just be good friends. With twins you just have to be careful she doesn't want to hurt their relationship.....
Reply:She needs to learn to develop her own social relationships. I agree that this is a very sticky situation, but life is filled with those. What better time to learn to practice than at her young age.





I've got a question for you: Is she asking for your advice as to what to do? If she is, I'd suggest that you tell her that she needs to have confidence in her own ability to make the best decisions for herself, but to be prepared for the natural consequences of her choices. If she is afraid of hurting one of their feelings, she might be able to do something extra special for the one she is not really interested in just to show that she values the friendship even if not the potential for a long-term relationship. However, she needs to be very clear to both what her true feelings are. Nothing is worse than receiving false affirmations only to find out about the fact later.





I wish you and her the best of luck.
Reply:Obviously the twins know that she can't date both of them equally. At least I hope they do! If they expect that, then she shouldn't see either of them!





I'd suggest talking to them both at the same time, and make sure they understand that she can only seriously date one of them. I am guessing that they know who she likes best, and hopefully the other one will just back off respectfully. If one of them gets jealous, then that's something that they'll have to sort out between themselves.
Reply:tell her to find something on the one she likes that makes him different from the other twin.





so this way, they dont pull the ol' switcheroo on her.
Reply:As a parent, are you comfortable with her seeing boys at 14?
Reply:which one has a better personality?
Reply:She's 14! Why is she (you too) worrying about boys at that age. I think you are sending her the wrong message at that age. Now, if she were older, I would say that she should make her own decision. Don't meddle. It is her business. However, now you should advise her to stick with books and not boys...
Reply:Really good question! I would just let it come naturally. Let them hang out together. If she likes on but not the other, whatever! Let them go out and hope that the other twin is understanding.
Reply:Tell her shes free to love one but not the other. I say forget the other twin!
Reply:Let her decide, it sucks when parents control who their kid loves.
Reply:She should be very sure which twin she is interested in, and ask him what the wisest course would be with his brother. It is a delicate situation, but usually twins are very close, and demonstrating that she respects the feelings of both twins will demonstrate her maturity.